Active-constructive responding is a set of behaviours that promote intimacy and trust. Responding to a child’s good news in this way builds the relationship.
How can our daughters be so connected, and yet often feel so utterly, utterly alone? That irony surfaced in the research of my book Being 14: Helping fierce teens become awesome women. Interviews with almost 200 of them showed they were permanently connected, living in a world of touch screen and wifi, of devices and apps, of television on demand, music in the pocket, and instant gratification. And that was what they saw as the divider between their generation, and that of their parents.
If you had to identify one thing that distinguishes this generation of teens from all those before it, I think it would be their belief in the power of now. They are the generation of instant gratification. If you want to speak to someone, you call them on their mobile device. If you want to see someone, you FaceTime or Skype.
The bombing in Manchester was beyond abhorrent. It defies comprehension that someone could plan an attack that was sure to kill children and the adults caring for them. It is always shocking when innocent people are targeted, but this tragedy poses special problems for parents and those who work with young people.